One of the most important things anyone can encourage you to do is have high expectations for yourself and others. A huge bearing on the kind of person people think we are before meeting us is based on our friend circle. It doesn't matter what great things you may have done or currently are doing , if they don't know about it, the company you keep determines the box you've been slotted into in those person's eyes. Just one reason you need to set the bar high and jump until you make it.
Life is going to throw all sorts of curve balls at you and often the rug will be ripped out from under you. Only you can decide on how you're going to react in this instance. Stay down and out and the bar will be low and it'll be too easy jumping over it; doing things you already know you're good at, procrastinating and eternally feeling sorry for yourself. Don't ever let that happen to you... when society sees someone down, they'll poke their ugly head through the door, point their grimy, snot filled fingers and say "I told you so."
I was recently gutted when a girl I like announced she had a boyfriend. I have been her friend for well over a year and realised quite quickly how challenging it would be to convince her I'm Mr. Right. Now she's taken, the fondness I have for her remains; she's still terrific and a true delight to be around and I know that other people can see this too. Her character is one where being around her makes you a better person and in turn your expectations of what to expect in a friend or partner get raised. Her bar is always high.
The crowd will never clap someone that is jumping at half their potential because so many people have come before you and done that. It never feels good when you know you're capable of so much more but you're stuck in a realm of self doubt with a low bar. Crowds want to see something special. The most elated feeling is when the bar seems to be unjumpable and people are unsure whether or not you'll make it but you've worked hard at this goal, you've put in the dedication, commitment, and enthusiasm needed to succeed and when you've made it, enjoy the moment but then tell yourself "I can go higher."
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